This is a repost from my old blog. Just wanted to reshare this because it’s one of my favorites and a reminder of the wonderful husband I’m so fortunate to have!
Once upon a time while I was photographing a wedding, during the ceremony the priest was talking directly to the couple. They had two children they were raising together. The priest pointed out how most people work so hard and put their children first and above everything else. But then he told the couple to stop doing that. Everyone in the church let out a tiny gasp of shock. Why would he say that? He continued by saying, “In a kingdom, when the king and queen aren’t happy together, when they’re not strong together, the kingdom falls apart. Your home is your kingdom. If you can’t have a strong relationship with each other, what will you have left to give your children? How will your kingdom survive without a strong king and queen?”
That hit me hard.
That got me to thinking.
Vince and I have always made a great team. We don’t always see eye to eye. We don’t like a lot of the same things. But when it comes to important things, we figure it out and get on the same page.
After listening to this sermon, I went home and thought about how our lives were running at the moment. Aria was 3 years old and was an insane behavioral handful. During that time she was having some moments, which in turn was causing Vince and me to have some moments. Things were heavy. We were exhausted. We weren’t putting ourselves first at any point because we were so worried about making our child a priority. We weren’t really being the best version of ourselves.
In the weeks after, I started letting Aria cry out her problems for a bit. Then, I’d go in and talk things out with her. This got Vince to do the same. We weren’t losing our cool with our child as much. When Vince would be in his room playing video games, I just let him be. That was his wind-down time. I found tiny ways to step it up a bit and not just wait for Vince to take care of things.
Ever since I had that reality check at that wedding, it has stayed in my head, how can I keep my king on top of his game? What do I need to do to keep my queenliness in this castle? The answer was simple – Be Happy!
Vince has gotten back into bowling because he loves it. With that, he’s made some goals for himself, and that’s exciting. He’s gotten Aria into video games so they can share something together. He gets whatever toys make him happy, even though I don’t understand them most of the time.
On my end, I’ve gotten into a completely new routine. Vince has helped me work on things for myself to help me take care of me. I’ve decided to drop a few things in order to make way for new things I want to take a stab at. Reorganization and simplification of a lot of things has totally helped me too!
I know everyone is currently hating 2020, but in all honesty, it’s been a good year for us and our little family. We’ve been working our tails off for a long time and we’re finally seeing our hard work pay off. We’ve checked so many things off our To-Do and wish lists. We’re excited to keep moving forward! Our kingdom is little, but it’s ours and we do as we please around here!
Midnight Revelry 
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