Judgy Much?

There are times when I tell people, “You should do this,” “You need this in your life,” “I did this and my life totally changed.”

Am I judging? No. Hell, I’m total Hot Mess Express over here. Don’t forget that.

I don’t say things because I think I’m better than a person or I’ve got it all figured out. Here’s the thing, throughout my own crash & burns I’ve learned a few things. Most of my life I’ve been on my own in figuring things out. I know what it’s like to not have help. Anytime someone has a tip or recommendation of something to help me get ahead, I welcome that. I’ve grown vocal about taking advice from people, like “That sounds awesome! I’ll have to try that soon,” or “I don’t think that will work for me. Here’s why…” So in turn, when I see I can do that for someone else, I do. In the words of the legendary Vida Boheme, “We must all help others.”

I guess some people don’t take it that way. I’ve been crossed out for being “too judgmental” and I “don’t know what it’s like.” I forget that some people are content with their lives. I might see talent, potential, or an opportunity for someone, but that person might not be ready for that in their life. Or they just might not give a shit what I have to say at all. There have been times I see a person overcomplicating things. I might offer a simple solution. That person might not welcome my advice.

When I say things to people in my life it’s because I see more in them. I want more for them. I guess that comes from me wanting to be more and always looking for growth in myself. The world is so big and there’s so much to learn and take in. On the bad side of that, I constantly feel like I’m never done with anything.

But I promise, I only want good things for you. I’m here always cheering you on and sending you good vibes!

Now, if I catch you falling victim to bad fashion trends, yeah I’m totally judging!

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.’ -Erma Bombeck